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• 𝐍𝐈𝐆𝐄𝐑𝐈𝐀 𝐁𝐀𝐃 𝐄𝐃𝐔𝐂𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍𝐀𝐋 𝐒𝐘𝐒𝐓𝐄𝐌; 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐂𝐀𝐔𝐒𝐄 𝐎𝐅 𝐌𝐎𝐑𝐀𝐋 𝐃𝐄𝐂𝐀𝐃𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄 𝐈𝐍 𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐒𝐎𝐂𝐈𝐄𝐓𝐈𝐄𝐒.Apr 24, 2021

  
  
  
  Over decades ago, Our fathers who are elites with influence have been inspiring us that “Education is the most powerful weapon to change the world” Education seems promising to them and to us; We embrace it and spend our funds on it . In our state of poverty, less privileged citizens still manage to attend schools and get certificates.
  
  Suddenly, the standard of our Education begins to fell and it continues falling till date due to the “I don’t care attitude of a larger percentage of our leaders” This is borne out of the fact that their children don’t attend these schools , they school abroad. So , the helpless Nigeria students face the music of the negligence.
  
  Things became worst and worst days by days, The outbreak of the 2020 Global pandemic ( COVID-19 ) worsen the situation, All students are at home because the schools were closed, Religious centres were closed. Everyone was free ,going no where,And this adage comes in which says: ” An idle hand is a devil’s workshop” People faced alot of difficulties in feeding themselves, maintaining their lives and still the government don’t extend any hand of welfare to them. Let’s be frank with ourselves, This sit-at- home order pushed some people into many things that can fetch them money either legal or illegal.
  
  The unemployment rate is very high, people with certificates are jobless, Some of them acquired skills to be making money so that they won’t be beggers or depend on anyone for survival and still they don’t make much sales.
  This affect the teenagers too( Both male and female) to engage in all sorts of immoral things.
  When Education don’t pay people, they find any means of getting better. As we all know that survival is very important.
  
  Now , We conclude that the bad Educational system has led to the moral decadence.
  
  © The Elites writer
  CEO: 𝐄𝐉𝐈𝐃𝐎𝐊𝐔𝐍 𝐌𝐎𝐒𝐄𝐒 𝐎𝐋𝐔𝐖𝐀𝐒𝐄𝐔𝐍
  
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• NAPS gives FG 7 days ultimatum to settle ASUP .Apr 7, 2021

  Hon.Minister
  
  Federal Ministry of Education,
  Federal Republic of Nigeria,
  FCT, ABUJA,
  Nigeria.
  
  
  Dear Sir,
  
  NAPS NATIONWIDE PROTEST.
  
  Solidarity Greetings from National Association Of Polytechnic Students (NAPS), the Conglomerate umbrella body and Representative Organization of over 20.1 Million Polytechnic Students both at Home and in Diaspora.
  
  It has come to the notice of the Leadership of NAPS on the proposed nationwide strike and total Shutdown of all Polytechnic across the country by ASUP National which is slated to Commence on the 6th April 2021, after a careful view on the demands of ASUP from Federal Government.
  
  The Leadership of NAPS hereby demands a quick response from the Federal Government through the Federal Ministry of Education and the Directorate of Polytechnic Education to as matter of Urgency to fulfill all the agreement between ASUP and Federal Government. Knowing fully well that without a quality Polytechnic Education the Nation is end to a very disastrous end.
  
  The education of the Nigeria citizens should not be politicise. The Leadership of NAPS will not take it lightly with Federal Government and ASUP.
  
  It’s regrettably sad, that the COVID-19 pandemic have done a great harm to the academic calendar of the Polytechnic Students but in all, we thank God for keeping us alive.
  
  We hereby call on both the Federal Government and ASUP National to desist from any act inimical to the students academic welfare, considering the negative impact of COVID-19 pandemic on students academic programme.
  
  Students as customers who paid their school fees as at when due should be respected and offered services at when due. Hence, to embark on strike action influencing the innocent students whom have paid their fees, acomodation and did not in any way contribute to the crisis to be at the receiving end, it’s unfair and unjust.
  
  NAPS Leadership appeal to the Federal Government through the Federal Ministry of Education not to allow ASUP to embark on the Proposed Strike, Federal Government should find means of getting things done with ASUP without being allow to embark on any strike action, considering the following:
  
  * the negative effect of COVID-19 Pandemic on the Academic Progress of the Polytechnic Students.
  
  * the adverse effects on the economy which influence Parents, guardians and sponsors of Polytechnic Students
  
  * the pains of continuous payment of house rent by students, coupled with landlord issue respect to COVID-19 period.
  
  * the elongation of years for academic programme.
  
  In as much as we appreciate the fatherly and motherly roles our Lecturers played in ensuring that we receive best education and become useful and relevant to the country, we beseech both ASUP National and Federal Government to find a lasting solution to all the lingering agreement and others. We will have no choice than to embark on Nationwide Protest, to Block all Major Roads in Abuja, including the Airport Road that will cripple the Economy of the Country.
  
  If the Strike Commence by 6th April 2021 as Proposed by ASUP National, the Leadership of NAPS will only watch out on the Federal Government Response within the 7 days, which if there is no good Response or outcome from Federal Government, the Entire Polytechnic Students will be Mobilize across the Country to Block all Major Road in all the 36 States including FCT.
  
  NAPS Nationwide Protest Proposed Date: 14th April 2021.
  
  Venue: Airport Roads, and all Major Roads in the Country.
  
  
  Accept our kindest regards at all times.
  
  
  Yours in Nation Building
  
  
  Comrade Olalere Benedict Adetunji
  NAPS President.

• PSYCHOLOGY OF ROMANTIC LOVE.Apr 4, 2021

  Most everyone wants to fall in love, especially codependents. To us, love is perhaps the highest ideal, and relationships give our lives meaning and purpose. They enliven and motivate us. A partner provides a companion when we have difficulty initiating action on our own. Being loved also validates our sense of self-esteem, overcomes shame-based doubts about our lovability, and soothes our fears of loneliness. But too often a beautiful romance turns sour. What was a wonderful dream becomes a painful nightmare. Ms. Perfect or Mr. Right becomes Ms. or Mr. Wrong. The unconscious is a mighty force. Reason doesn’t seem to stop us from falling in love, nor make it any easier to leave! Even when the relationship turns out to be toxic, once attached, ending the relationship is as hard as falling in love was easy!
  
  The Chemistry of Romance and Falling in Love
  
  Our brains are wired to fall in love — to feel the bliss and euphoria of romance, to enjoy pleasure, and to bond and procreate. Feel-good neurochemicals flood the brain at each stage of lust, attraction, and attachment. Particularly dopamine provides natural high and ecstatic feelings that can be as addictive as cocaine. Deeper feelings are assisted by oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone,” released during orgasm. It’s directly linked to bonding and increases trust and loyalty in romantic attachments.
  
  The Psychology of Romantic Love — Whom We Find Attractive
  
  Psychology plays a role, too. Our self-esteem, mental and emotional health, life experiences, and family relations all influence whom we’re attracted to. Experiences, both positive and negative, impact our choices and make someone appear more or less attractive. For example, we might find commonality attractive, but avoid someone who cheated on an ex if that has happened to us before. We’re attracted to subtle physical attributes, albeit unconsciously, that remind us of a family member. More mysterious, we can be attracted to someone who shares emotional and behavioral patterns with a member of our family even before they become apparent.
  
  The Ideal Stage of Romance
  
  It’s true that we’re blinded by love. Healthy idealization is normal and helps us fall in love. We admire our beloved, are willing to explore our partner’s interests, and accept his or her idiosyncrasies. Love also brings out parts of our personality that were dormant. We might feel manlier or more womanly, more empathic, generous, hopeful, and more willing to take risks and try new things. In this way, we feel more alive, because we have access to other aspects of our ordinary or constricted personality. Additionally, in early dating, we’re usually more honest than down the road when we become invested in the relationship and fear speaking our truth might precipitate a breakup.
  
  Although, healthy idealization doesn’t blind us to serious warning signs of problems, if we’re depressed or have low self-esteem, we’re more likely to idealize a prospective partner and overlook signs of trouble, such as unreliability or addiction, or accept behavior that is disrespectful or abusive. The neurochemicals of romance can lift our depressed mood and fuel codependency and love addiction when we seek a relationship in order to put an end to our loneliness or emptiness. When we lack a support system or are unhappy, we might rush into a relationship and become attached quickly before really knowing our partner. This is also referred to as “love on the rebound” or a “transitional relationship” following a breakup or divorce. It’s far better to first recover from a breakup.
  
  The Ordeal Stage of Romantic Love
  
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  After the initial ideal stage, usually starting after six months, we enter the ordeal stage as we learn more things about our partner that displease us. We discover habits and flaws we dislike and attitudes we believe to be ignorant or distasteful. In fact, some of the same traits that attracted us now annoy us. We liked that our mate was warm and friendly, but now feel ignored at social gatherings. We admired his bold and decisive, but learn he’s rude and close-minded. We were enchanted by her carefree spirit, but are now appalled by her unrealistic spending. We were captivated by his unfettered expressions of love and a promised future, but discover he’s loose with the truth.
  
  Additionally, as the high wears off, we start to revert to our ordinary personality, and so has our partner. We don’t feel as expansive, loving, and unselfish. In the beginning, we may have gone out of our way to accommodate him or her, now we complain that our needs aren’t being met. We’ve changed, and we don’t feel as wonderful, but we want those blissful feelings back.
  
  Two things happen next that can damage relationships. First, now that we’re attached and fear losing or upsetting our partner, we hold back feelings, wants, and needs. This puts up walls to intimacy, the secret sauce that keeps love alive. In its place we withdraw and breed resentments. Our feelings can come out sideways with sarcasm or passive-aggression. As romance and idealization fade, the second fatal mistake is to complain and try to turn our partner into who we first idealized him or her to be. We feel cheated and disillusioned that our partner is now behaving differently than in the beginning of the relationship. He or she, too, is reverting to their ordinary personality that may include less effort made to win you and accommodate your needs. Our partner will feel controlled and resentful and may pull away.
  
  In some cases, we might discover serious problems — that our partner has an addiction, mental illness, or his abusive or dishonest. These are issues that require a serious commitment to change and often years of therapy to overcome. Many codependents, who get quickly involved for the reasons stated above, will sacrifice their own happiness and continue in a relationship for years trying to change, help, and fix their partner. The dysfunctional family dynamics of their childhood often get repeated in their marriages and relationships. They may unconsciously be contributing to the problem, because they’re reacting to an abusive or controlling parent. Change requires healing our past and overcoming shame and low self-esteem to feel entitled to love and appreciation.
  
  Getting to the Real Deal
  
  We might not want to continue a relationship that involves addiction or abuse or has other serious problems. (See Codependency for Dummies for a list of both minimal and optimal ingredients for successful relationships.) Lacking major obstacles, getting past the ordeal to the real deal requires self-esteem, courage, acceptance, and assertiveness skills. It necessitates the ability to honestly speak up about our needs and wants, to share feelings, compromise, and resolve conflict. Rather than try to change our partner, our efforts are better placed on learning to accept him or her. (This doesn’t mean accepting abuse.) This is the struggle for intimacy, and requires a commitment by both partners to get through the ordeal stage with mutual respect and a desire to make the relationship work.
  
  Steps You Can Take to Make Love Last
  
  We will attract someone who treats us the way we expect to be treated. As we value ourselves more, whom we are attracted to will also change, and we will naturally avoid someone who doesn’t treat us well or meet our needs.
  
  Know yourself, your needs, wants, and limits.
  
  Take time to get to know the person you’re dating. Learn who they really are and how you both resolve conflict.
  
  Remember that s*x releases oxytocin and increases bonding (though it can occur without it).
  
  Be honest from the start. Don’t hide who you are, including your needs. Speak up when you dislike something.
  
  Talk honestly about what you want and your expectations in a relationship. If the other person doesn’t want the same things, end it. (This may not be easy, but the relationship wouldn’t have worked or satisfied you.)
  
  Research shows that relationship outcomes are predictable based on the partners’ self esteem.
  
  Boundaries and intimacy are essential to relationships. Learn to be assertive to express your feelings, needs, and wants and set boundaries. Get How To Speak Your Mind – Become Assertive and Set Limits and the webinar How to Be Assertive.
  
  © The Elites writer